I’ve struggled with my self- confidence for a very long time. I’m very hard on myself… constantly tearing myself down. I speak negatively about myself all the time. I try to play it off… but I’ve learned it does affect you even when you don’t think it will.
There was a video on Facebook produced by The Scene. Two best friends (in their early 20’s) were asked to write down negative comments they said to themselves in front of the mirror on a sheet of paper. Then, they had to direct them towards each other.
“You look so ugly in pictures that I can’t even look at them anymore”
“you would be more successful if you lost 15 pounds”
“he would have never cheated on you if you were skinnier”
They actually had to say these things to each other. Never in my life would I dream of saying that to anyone especially my best friend.
I’m really hard on myself. I worry too much about what other people think about me. I don’t buy a ton of clothes at the mall because I go through 20 things and find only 1 thing that I feel remotely looks good on me. I feel fat in everything.
at the end of the video it says:
“Why do we say things to ourselves that we wouldn’t ever say to (or think about) our best friends? Be a best friend to yourself”
I think that hit me hard. Why am I being so critical of myself? I’m worried that people will look at me with disgust at what I’m wearing… but in reality that’s just a horror movie. That’s never going to happen because people are so focused on their own life that they really could care less about what you’re wearing or what you look like.
If you feel like your arms are a little too big to wear a tank top… DON’T LISTEN TO YOURSELF!! Unless you walk in the mall wearing a cheetah print jumpsuit, no one is going to examine your outfit and critique what you are wearing. Stop worrying about what other people think of you!!!
I need to stop being a bully. I need to be a best friend to myself.
“For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
~ Psalm 139:13-14
God created me for a specific reason. I am unique and loved just the way I am. I am his artwork, and so are you. Stop criticizing God’s workmanship because I promise you… he knew exactly what he was doing when he created you.